2020 · March 2020

Daddy’s Birthday – 11.03.2020

Happy Birthday Daddy! My husband turned 44 today. His birthday request was that we didn’t buy birthday cards and that he wanted us all to put into a contribution to pay for a years registration of Disney Plus.

Being the big Star Wars fan that he is, he is very much looking forward to the launch of Disney Plus UK on 24th March. He’s been intentionally avoiding any and all spoilers of The Mandalorian, and is literally counting down the days to the launch!

Keen to encourage the girls to be creative with their gifts for Peach, I asked them to make a birthday card each for him (and to save ourselves the potential extra cost of £12 for said cards). There was a little bit of disgruntle at the beginning, but they all took the task and made it their own. And it is lovely to see their individual creations 😍

I have found that present and gift ideas get harder the older we get. We tend to have an idea of what we would like to get ourselves, but for others we struggle. Also, having five kids; we often think of other ways the money on a gift for each other can be spent on either something for the girls or something in the house 🤦🏼‍♀️

I took the girls shopping at the weekend to pick a gift up each to give to Peach. They each had £5 to spend, and they did so wisely. They put their money together to treat him to a bottle of rum (I purchased 😉) and then bought him a little gift each of either his favourite snacks, sauce or chocolate.

Peach and I had a lovely lunch together at Tithe Barn in Cosby. And then this evening, we have had family round for a Ponchinello’s Pizza and an amazing homemade Biscoff Cheesecake 😍

2020 · March 2020

Fresh air fun – 08.03.2020

Sometimes all you need is to get out of the house and have some fun!

I took the big two to the gym this morning. I wasn’t feeling too good so took the opportunity to just watch and direct the girls as to which weights to do and how to use them. Not that I have any training/weights experience though 😜

They did really well and I’m hoping that I’ve guided them a little more as to how to use the machines properly and set them a plan going forward.

Peach took the little three out to a local park and had lots of fun with them. I love the smiles, laughing and attentiveness that is shown on this video….

Fresh air, a wonderful evening roast made by the hubby and lots of exercise – all you need to keep the bugs away ❤️

2020 · March 2020

Safe – 06.03.2020

Why do we question the reason? Why does there have to be a reason? What if there is no reason?

A beautiful surprise today when visiting a friend.

This week has been a week of meetings, parents evenings and appointments. The little three have had excellent reviews.

This morning I attended a meeting at the girls primary school about the new RSE (Relationships and Sex Education) Policy that will be implemented in September 2020.

Things I learnt about the new policy:-

  • Relationship education is about showing our children what is a safe relationship. Encouraging them to have a healthy relationship with themselves, others and now online.
  • Sex education isn’t just about the birds and the bees. It’s also about the biology of the body.
  • Sex education in Primary School is a big concern of parents but yet only a very small fraction of the actual policy.
  • Health education also covers mental health, physical health and online health.
  • The school that my daughters go to, are mindful of the wishes of parents and are keen to seek the views of all parents.

I personally think that due to the ease of access to information; children these days are seeking knowledge younger and younger, and in all honesty, no matter what restrictions we put in place, if they want to find out, they will.

Yes I want to preserve my daughters innocence, but I also want them to know what is real. I want them to know what is healthy, what is safe and if what they are finding out is anything other than that, they know who to turn too.

If you want to know more about the new RSE Policy that will be implemented in all schools as of September 2020, more information can be found here.

2020 · March 2020

You nearly beat me! 05.03.2020

World book day 2020 you very nearly beat me!

Getting the girls ready in the outfits all before school was achieved! I managed the face paint of Yoda and the remake of the apron for Alice, but what I actually stumbled on was three very overexcited young ladies 🤦🏼‍♀️

Once they were in their outfits, it’s like someone had fed them sugar or copious amounts of e-numbers. They were bouncing off the walls and acting out scenarios of battle and episodes of Star Wars.

Oh, and the green face paint, yep, that’s still on my fingers. Wish us luck with getting that off Pops’ face tonight 😫

2020 · March 2020

Help is on it’s way – 04.03.2020

This is the folder of Pops. All documentation that relates to appointments, doctors notes, scribbles of conversations, leaflets and reports.

Around September 2016 Pops started to display what I then called twitches. The first one I remember noticing was her eyes, she would move them side to side like on an action man doll. Not fully understanding what the situation was, I used to get stressed at her doing it all the time. After the action man eyes, came the bunny nose twitch, we’ve had the clearing the throat, we’ve had the raising the eyebrows, we’ve had the constant blinking and now we have the eyes wide. Over time and with a fair bit of research and diagnosis; I have come to discover these actions are all Tic’s. Our baby girl, then aged 6 years old, had developed tics.

Pops has always been our precious; since she was little we’ve mentioned numerous times that she’s in cloud cuckoo land and she was/is happiest when there.

I have been uploading some of my old blogposts recently, and reading them now with the knowledge of where we have been in terms of her medical and mental situations, I can see we have had our concerns with Pops since she was very young. But at the time, it was just Pops, that’s how she was.

Our little Pops is such a caring, kind and clever young lady. She’s a people pleaser and so dainty that she can win over anyone.

We have tried to raise our concerns with Pop’s behaviour time and time again. We have been to the GP and been referred to a Paediatrician. The Paediatrician has referred us to a Dietitian. We’ve seen a Neurologist, ENT Consultant, School Nurse, Health Visitor, various class teachers, School Head, Play Therapist, CAMHS and have lost count of the number of blood tests she’s had. The number of times we have been told, “You need to speak to your GP” to then be told “you need a referral from the school” is just crazy!

Our little precious has anxiety, she is 10 years old and since she was 4, she has had IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). She has rages over what would seem to us as a small everyday task, like having a shower, that shut down any rational thought. Her mind is constantly thinking of all possibilities to every situation and how best she can please those around her.

But all that comes at a price. And more often than not, if it’s not Pops that suffers physically, it’s Peach and I that pay the price.

You see, Pops likes to wear a mask. When she is at school or in new situations, she puts on the mask and to outsiders she lets them think that everything is ok. But if you sit and watch her when she doesn’t know you’re watching her, you’ll see it. You’ll see the little girl that’s trying her hardest to keep everything together. The little girl that’s battling with the voices in her head, the emotions running around her mind and body and you might just get a glimpse of the little girl who’s struggling.

I’ve attended the Positive Parenting Training recommended by the Health Visitor and School Nurse. I’ve gone along with their recommendations of behaviour management and positive praise. And whilst that may have helped with my methods, it’s not helping Pops.

Her school reports show that she is a clever student, they have no reason to believe there is a cause for concern. She’s either at age related or working towards greater depth. I have been left with feeling like I’m banging my head on a brick wall. Questioning myself as to whether I’m making too much of a fuss, is it my parenting? Am I imagining it? Am I making it a bigger deal than it is? Am I being over sensitive? Why is no-one else seeing this?

However, I have a feeling that we are now talking to someone who has the ability to see what we see, to look behind her mask. Hold tight Pops, help is on it’s way…..

2020 · March 2020

Trash 4 Cash – 03.03.2020

I run two local parent, baby and toddler groups voluntarily; Totstime and Twins at Totstime

Both groups are not for profit and are run by amazing volunteers 😍

That said, the entrance fee that the families pay just covers our expenses of refreshments, room hire, birthday cards and Christmas events. So I like to look at alternative ways to raise funds.

One way we do this is by recycling what others would trash. Today’s picture is just a one item of the recycling that I collect. This is something that most pet owners will dispose of in their general rubbish bin. It’s the pet food pouches.

I am a registered drop off location for Terracycle UK and through them we recycle a variety of waste and raise money for our groups in return. Here’s some of the items we recycle…

And I’m helping the environment too 🥰

It is a big task and yes, it has caused many an argument with hubby that bags of what others see as rubbish are left on our doorstep, and that our out house is currently loaded with recycling for me to sort. But it’s also very very scary to know that with the few people that have dropped off recycling for me, that’s all items that would have otherwise been put in landfill 😱😥😥

Please, please, please, can I ask you to take a moment, see what items can be recycled, find a local terracycle drop off point and help your environment and your local community groups.

I would also like to give a big shout out of thanks to everyone that already passes their “recyclable rubbish” to me. Honestly, I am so very grateful 🥰 – especially those that rinse the pet food pouches 🤩 – you my dears get a big high five 🖐🏻 🤩

2020 · March 2020

World Book Day aka World Parent’s stress week! – 02.03.2020

Oh my word!! Seriously!?! Who came up with the idea of dressing up for World Book Day?

I love reading books, I encourage our girls to read books, I love to listen to audiobooks and I love listening to our girls read to us.

But come on!! Dressing up as a character for school?!?

I have 2Tone who hardly ever reads, but wants to use the opportunity to either wear branded clothes to school that she wouldn’t normally be allowed to wear or, wear an outfit that is very inappropriate for school!

When I refused to refinance the house just to purchase an outfit that will be worn once and then stored away and the fact that we have a loft full of costumes; we then had the mission of rummaging through the boxes in an attempt to find something she will wear.

Minion, Rubels and Pops have had me wracking my memory as to what we have in the loft; which then resulted in a mission of then going into the loft to find said outfits.

And then you have DM, who, bless her, isn’t taking part in dressing up for World Book Day as her school isn’t doing it. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I know it’s a bug-bear for a lot of parents; there are those that don’t have the money to purchase costumes and/or pay the donation to wear said costume. Then you have those whose children attend a school where the school is not participating in the dress up as a character from a book. You also have those that either create the outfit themselves or encourage their children to make the outfit.

I can’t tell you what the answer is, it’s one of those situations where you’ll never please everyone.

All I’m saying is, if you’re one of those parents that’s feeling “aaarrrgggghhh 😫😫😫” about World Book Day this week, I feel your pain ❤️