2020 · February 2020

Day of rest – 16.02.2020

Apparently, Sunday is a “day of rest” PAH!!

We were up and out of the house just after 9am today to join my brother and his family at the local leisure centre for some swimming fun. It was great fun, lots of splashing about and a fab start to the half term holidays.

We then took the girls for an arts and craft session at 4KidsonKanvas. They were offering free arts and craft sessions over the week of the half term (sessions still available). Sarah was so welcoming, she had kindly set the table up with the girls names in place. The room was full of inspiration for the girls to get their creative heads on. For an hour, Sarah encouraged the girls to be as creative as they could, guiding them with using the tools and equipment available. The girls absolutely loved their time with Sarah and were very proud of their achievements at the end of their session.

Peach and I sat outside the room and came across some fantastic other facilities available at The Artisan Centre: Piston Rings and Things, The Pottery Pit, The Bakewell Tart and KJ Interiors.

We then came home to watch the final of The Masked Singer, which was amazing! We have thoroughly enjoyed watching the series with the girls.

An afternoon dog walk and a quick visit to see my Mum and the smile on her face when having her family visit her 😍

A busy “rest” day and setting the plans for the week of fun ahead ☺️

2020 · February 2020

Be kind… – 15.02.2020

Heartbreaking news today about Caroline Flack, and what a legacy to leave us with….

“In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”

None of us know the demons she was battling. What we do know however, is that she was a person, she had feelings, she has a family that loved her and she had a beautiful smile.

Who are we to pass comment on what happened behind closed doors? We read the stories, we listen to other people’s opinions and we judge.

I genuinely do believe that many people have anxiety in one form or another. When you hear kind words or see kind actions, you can see the greater good and can work through those anxieties. However, when you hear one person say a mean thing to you or more often about you to another, it creates questions in your mind. And when it’s someone you care about, someone you value the opinion of or someone you believe knows you the best, you start to believe those mean things.

Reach out to your friends, check in on your loved ones and fill their hearts and minds with as many kind and loving words as you possibly can. To you it might seem like nothing, but to them it could mean the world. ❤️

Rest in Peace Caroline Flack ✨

2020 · February 2020

Daddy’s Valentines – 14.02.2020

I am very lucky to have a husband who shows me daily just how much he loves me. Valentine’s Day for the past five years has been a day where Daddy takes a daughter out for a Valentines date.

In 2015 Peach took DM to WingWah’s for an all you can eat Chinese buffet (her choice).

This is where the tradition started; he bought her a Valentines card and a silver heart necklace.

In 2016, it was Ruby’s turn..

Rubels chose Pizza Hut and then a play in the arcade. She too received a Valentines card and a silver heart necklace.

In 2016, it was Pops’s turn….

Pops chose basagna at Prezzo’s and then an extra Sweet treats pancake. She was so chuffed to get her Valentines card and necklace too.

In 2018, Minion had her turn and she wanted Frankie & Benny’s and then she too had a play in the arcade.

You can see by the smile on her face how proud she was to get her necklace.

This year, there was no change. 2tone got her chance. She’s had a lovely treat of being taken to Delightful Desserts for her Valentines treat.

Thank you Peach for being such a fantastic Daddy to our ladies. Thank you for showing them your love, your kindness and your thoughtfulness.

I love you with all my heart ❤️

2020 · February 2020

Acceptance – 12.02.2020

Today was my final session of Compassion Focus Therapy Training. I have found these sessions really beneficial on so many levels.

To have compassion for myself, compassion for others and open to receiving compassion from others.

What does compassion mean? Is it giving someone a hug when you see them hurting? Is it being mindful of the feelings of others? Is it lending that ear when someone wants to talk, or being that shoulder to cry on?

Compassion is an unconditional acceptance in the moment of feelings – this can be done without judging or affirming the actions that lead to those feelings. We can use mindfulness to move forward once we have received/given compassion.

An attack on others is an attack on yourself and to become compassionate willing, let loose the illusion of negativity and focus on love.

We have two choices, look at the negatives of others or see their love.

By choosing to look at the negatives of others, I am also focusing on the negatives within myself. Quite often I tell the girls that if they see a behaviour or action of another that they don’t like, they need to look at their own behaviour first and recognise whether they are behaving or acting in the way they wish to see.

Yet when I focus on another persons love, I give love to myself and beyond.

This does not deny the negativity in someone but only they are irrelevant in my perception. I acknowledge their negativity but choose not to dwell on it.

I accept that I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and I also accept that others may not approve of what I do, the decisions I make or the information that I share.

I also accept that I give love, I am doing the best that I can, I am strong, I am loving and I am ME ❤️

February 2020

Be the Champion.. 08.02.2020

It has been a week where my strength has been utilised.

TwoTone has really struggled with her behaviour this week and got to the point on Thursday where she just couldn’t see a way out of the rollercoaster she had got on. It is so easy to see the challenging behaviour as mean words or aggressive actions, but it takes time, understanding and a whole lot of patience to see beyond those actions and find what is actually needed.

Pops too has been overwhelmed this week, she has begun to recognise the power of her mind and is able to tell us when something is bothering her – which is an incredible step for her. But sometimes, a simple act of going next in the shower can cause a massive meltdown.

DM appears to want to be heard, or rather might be feeling that she isn’t being heard and has decided to ramp up the volume switch. She is such a caring and considerate soul; who’s mind is being taken over by hormones.

Add to this the fact that I am experiencing a overdose of hormones, it certainly makes for a challenging week.

Yes, “poor Peach”, I hear you cry. He is our anchor, he brings calm to our storms and humour to our sass. I am forever grateful to have him as my one, my love and my life. Together we are the champion for our daughters; and he is my saviour. ❤️

February 2020

I am that parent… 04.02.2020

I am that parent who will always be our children’s champion.

I am that parent who will be cheering our daughter on at the sideline.

I am that parent who will hold our daughter tight when she needs a cuddle.

I am that parent who will always encourage our daughters to stand up for what she believes in.

I am that parent that will teach our daughters to be kind and respectful.

I am that parent who will celebrate the crazies.

I am that parent that will dance like no one’s watching.

I am that parent that will wholeheartedly love our daughters with every breathe I take.

But my darling daughters, you also need to know, that I am now, more than ever, that parent who cares less what other people think of me. As long as I am confident that you are safe, I will use any means necessary to make sure that you respect my requests.

And yes, that does mean that if, when we are out wandering around town, you decide to start shutting doors in my face and you wish to start annoying your sister, even after my several quiet requests of leaving her alone, I will be the parent that finds the humour in singing Christmas songs and “I know a song that will get on your nerves” very loudly. I give zero s**ts about the people you think are laughing or staring at me. If it distracts you enough from the unnecessary behaviour you were doing and makes people smile (myself included) – I’m there!! I am that Parent ❤️

February 2020

To do list… 03.02.2020

On reflection, this is how my to do list should have looked this morning. Instead my bright yellow post it note was filled with, call…., reply to ……., chase ……, speak to…….., meet with….., text……. ironing….

Whilst at twin club my friends were chuckling at my list and my mission to complete it.

How often do we set our physical to do list to one side and work on our inner self to do list! Take time to breathe, sit back and listen to a book, take a walk for the sake walking. As I picked up our girls from school, I walked home hand in hand with Aj (Pops walking ahead having a happy little chat with herself), we saw birds in the hedge beside us. They were so close we could see the colours of their petals and the type of birds they were. AJ and I had a lovely chuckle at seeing Sam the Great Tit there.

I am so very grateful for the luxury of being able to be with our girls at these times. I love the cuddles on the settee watching The Masked Singer, I love the idle chit chat over dinner and I love the hand in hand wanders whilst observing the world around us.