2020 · April 2020 · Home Schooling

Perspective – 27.04.2020

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the negative view of quarantine. Home-schooling five daughters, spending 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the same people and minimal contact with people outside our household. Listening to the bickering, the power struggles and witnessing the actions of frustration. Honestly, it would be so easy to just say “f**k it”.

But then I see moments like this…. and I am reminded of the absolute beauty of quarantine.

I am a full-time Mum to five individual, creative and challenging daughters. My husband holds the responsibility of providing financially for us all. And that is very often a heavy weight.

This lockdown has forced him to stop working; it wasn’t a choice. There will be a financial impact, of that I have no doubt, but the family impact…. well that could have never been measured. You see, we have never ever, had this amount of time together as a family. And the benefits that our time together is having on us as individuals and as a family, is incredible.

It is hard work, not a day goes by where a someone gets upset, an argument happens over who’s turn it is to use the tv remotes, or who last used a hairbrush or even about breathing in the same direction of another person (yes that really is a case for an argument in this house). But, every day, there is always that one moment (some days a treat of two), where they’ll surprise us with their love, kindness, intelligence and their inquisitiveness.

And if all else fails, at the end of the day, if I’ve not seen “that moment”, I remind myself….. We’re all still alive and most of us are still smiling ❤️

Stay safe & stay home.

Sending virtual hugs to family and friends ❤️

2020 · February 2020

Baking rota – 29.02.2020

We’ve been planning to make some Crunchie cupcakes for quite a while.

Our girls love to bake with me and when we do we make quite a lot of cupcakes.

I ended up making the cupcakes with Minion today. With the five girls it’s always a battle as to who licks the whisks, who cleans (licks) the bowl and who gets to eat the leftovers 😂

We made chocolate sponge cupcakes, with honey buttercream topping and then placed chopped bits of Crunchie on the top.

After making 34 cupcakes, DM wanted to do some baking too! DM is not a big cake fan, so it was a surprise to me that she asked to make a Victoria Sandwich cake.

She made two vanilla sponge cakes, with a chocolate spread filling, and then topped and coated the sides with a vanilla buttercream and chocolate shavings.

Anyone for some cake??……

2020 · February 2020

Talk the walk – 26.02.2020

Thank you for all the lovely messages of concern and well wishes for my post yesterday. I am feeling much better today.

Today saw the start of Beat the Street in Blaby District. Our girls were very excited to be tapping in on the Beat boxes this morning. It’s a fun way to encourage people to get walking and to join the challenge leaderboard.

If you’re a listener of BBC Radio Leicester, you would have heard me chatting with Martin Ballard today about the Beat the Street competition. I got to also chat with Chiropractor, Tim Hutchful, who I have met before and was a pleasure to talk with again. We spoke about beards, ingenious names of businesses (Jason Doner Van 😂), gig ticket resales and painkillers. I thoroughly enjoy my time on table talk, it’s always good fun and I have met some truly amazing and fascinating people. Thanks Hayden & Martin!

And then tonight we’ve had family night, and as much as we say the time is for the girls to see their extended family more frequently (and for the visitors to get a free Peach cooked meal 😜), I have a feeling that someone else made the most of the extra attention tonight….

2020 · February 2020

The calm of the storm – 25.02.2020

Today I have been left with the aftermath of a migraine. I am very fortunate to have only ever experienced 3 migraines in my life, and last night was one of them.

I pulled on the drive last night and realised that I couldn’t see clearly. I couldn’t focus on my centre vision and around what I can only describe as a black hole, looked like the effects of a kaleidoscope. As I walked in the house, the bright lights of the kitchen made me squint and made my head hurt. Thankfully Peach clocked me straight away and noticed something wasn’t right. I sat down and rested my head on the cushion, closed my eyes and couldn’t move.

My speech became an effort and I was feeling dizzy and nauseous. I spent an hour sitting in the dark while the girls had their showers. Peach wanted me to rest in bed, and it wasn’t until TwoTone sat with me, that she realised just how much noise they all make when they’re all upstairs either getting ready for their shower or for bed. TwoTone was so attentive, a side of her that I don’t get to see very often, and is beautiful to be a witness to.

Once the girls were in bed, I too, took myself up to bed and hoped to sleep off the rest of the migraine.

Today I have been left with a dull reminder of last night. A reminder to take it slow, stay calm and don’t bend down; as every time I did bend down, my head throbbed.

Peach and the girls have been checking up on me several times throughout the day, which I am forever grateful for; especially knowing how unsympathetic I often am when those closest to me are ill.

Another good nights sleep and all will be rested ❤️

2020 · February 2020

Be kind… – 15.02.2020

Heartbreaking news today about Caroline Flack, and what a legacy to leave us with….

“In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”

None of us know the demons she was battling. What we do know however, is that she was a person, she had feelings, she has a family that loved her and she had a beautiful smile.

Who are we to pass comment on what happened behind closed doors? We read the stories, we listen to other people’s opinions and we judge.

I genuinely do believe that many people have anxiety in one form or another. When you hear kind words or see kind actions, you can see the greater good and can work through those anxieties. However, when you hear one person say a mean thing to you or more often about you to another, it creates questions in your mind. And when it’s someone you care about, someone you value the opinion of or someone you believe knows you the best, you start to believe those mean things.

Reach out to your friends, check in on your loved ones and fill their hearts and minds with as many kind and loving words as you possibly can. To you it might seem like nothing, but to them it could mean the world. ❤️

Rest in Peace Caroline Flack ✨

2020 · February 2020

Acceptance – 12.02.2020

Today was my final session of Compassion Focus Therapy Training. I have found these sessions really beneficial on so many levels.

To have compassion for myself, compassion for others and open to receiving compassion from others.

What does compassion mean? Is it giving someone a hug when you see them hurting? Is it being mindful of the feelings of others? Is it lending that ear when someone wants to talk, or being that shoulder to cry on?

Compassion is an unconditional acceptance in the moment of feelings – this can be done without judging or affirming the actions that lead to those feelings. We can use mindfulness to move forward once we have received/given compassion.

An attack on others is an attack on yourself and to become compassionate willing, let loose the illusion of negativity and focus on love.

We have two choices, look at the negatives of others or see their love.

By choosing to look at the negatives of others, I am also focusing on the negatives within myself. Quite often I tell the girls that if they see a behaviour or action of another that they don’t like, they need to look at their own behaviour first and recognise whether they are behaving or acting in the way they wish to see.

Yet when I focus on another persons love, I give love to myself and beyond.

This does not deny the negativity in someone but only they are irrelevant in my perception. I acknowledge their negativity but choose not to dwell on it.

I accept that I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and I also accept that others may not approve of what I do, the decisions I make or the information that I share.

I also accept that I give love, I am doing the best that I can, I am strong, I am loving and I am ME ❤️

February 2020

To do list… 03.02.2020

On reflection, this is how my to do list should have looked this morning. Instead my bright yellow post it note was filled with, call…., reply to ……., chase ……, speak to…….., meet with….., text……. ironing….

Whilst at twin club my friends were chuckling at my list and my mission to complete it.

How often do we set our physical to do list to one side and work on our inner self to do list! Take time to breathe, sit back and listen to a book, take a walk for the sake walking. As I picked up our girls from school, I walked home hand in hand with Aj (Pops walking ahead having a happy little chat with herself), we saw birds in the hedge beside us. They were so close we could see the colours of their petals and the type of birds they were. AJ and I had a lovely chuckle at seeing Sam the Great Tit there.

I am so very grateful for the luxury of being able to be with our girls at these times. I love the cuddles on the settee watching The Masked Singer, I love the idle chit chat over dinner and I love the hand in hand wanders whilst observing the world around us.