2020 · February 2020

Day of rest – 16.02.2020

Apparently, Sunday is a “day of rest” PAH!!

We were up and out of the house just after 9am today to join my brother and his family at the local leisure centre for some swimming fun. It was great fun, lots of splashing about and a fab start to the half term holidays.

We then took the girls for an arts and craft session at 4KidsonKanvas. They were offering free arts and craft sessions over the week of the half term (sessions still available). Sarah was so welcoming, she had kindly set the table up with the girls names in place. The room was full of inspiration for the girls to get their creative heads on. For an hour, Sarah encouraged the girls to be as creative as they could, guiding them with using the tools and equipment available. The girls absolutely loved their time with Sarah and were very proud of their achievements at the end of their session.

Peach and I sat outside the room and came across some fantastic other facilities available at The Artisan Centre: Piston Rings and Things, The Pottery Pit, The Bakewell Tart and KJ Interiors.

We then came home to watch the final of The Masked Singer, which was amazing! We have thoroughly enjoyed watching the series with the girls.

An afternoon dog walk and a quick visit to see my Mum and the smile on her face when having her family visit her 😍

A busy “rest” day and setting the plans for the week of fun ahead ☺️

2020 · February 2020

Be kind… – 15.02.2020

Heartbreaking news today about Caroline Flack, and what a legacy to leave us with….

“In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”

None of us know the demons she was battling. What we do know however, is that she was a person, she had feelings, she has a family that loved her and she had a beautiful smile.

Who are we to pass comment on what happened behind closed doors? We read the stories, we listen to other people’s opinions and we judge.

I genuinely do believe that many people have anxiety in one form or another. When you hear kind words or see kind actions, you can see the greater good and can work through those anxieties. However, when you hear one person say a mean thing to you or more often about you to another, it creates questions in your mind. And when it’s someone you care about, someone you value the opinion of or someone you believe knows you the best, you start to believe those mean things.

Reach out to your friends, check in on your loved ones and fill their hearts and minds with as many kind and loving words as you possibly can. To you it might seem like nothing, but to them it could mean the world. ❤️

Rest in Peace Caroline Flack ✨

2020 · February 2020

Daddy’s Valentines – 14.02.2020

I am very lucky to have a husband who shows me daily just how much he loves me. Valentine’s Day for the past five years has been a day where Daddy takes a daughter out for a Valentines date.

In 2015 Peach took DM to WingWah’s for an all you can eat Chinese buffet (her choice).

This is where the tradition started; he bought her a Valentines card and a silver heart necklace.

In 2016, it was Ruby’s turn..

Rubels chose Pizza Hut and then a play in the arcade. She too received a Valentines card and a silver heart necklace.

In 2016, it was Pops’s turn….

Pops chose basagna at Prezzo’s and then an extra Sweet treats pancake. She was so chuffed to get her Valentines card and necklace too.

In 2018, Minion had her turn and she wanted Frankie & Benny’s and then she too had a play in the arcade.

You can see by the smile on her face how proud she was to get her necklace.

This year, there was no change. 2tone got her chance. She’s had a lovely treat of being taken to Delightful Desserts for her Valentines treat.

Thank you Peach for being such a fantastic Daddy to our ladies. Thank you for showing them your love, your kindness and your thoughtfulness.

I love you with all my heart ❤️

2020 · February 2020

Acceptance – 12.02.2020

Today was my final session of Compassion Focus Therapy Training. I have found these sessions really beneficial on so many levels.

To have compassion for myself, compassion for others and open to receiving compassion from others.

What does compassion mean? Is it giving someone a hug when you see them hurting? Is it being mindful of the feelings of others? Is it lending that ear when someone wants to talk, or being that shoulder to cry on?

Compassion is an unconditional acceptance in the moment of feelings – this can be done without judging or affirming the actions that lead to those feelings. We can use mindfulness to move forward once we have received/given compassion.

An attack on others is an attack on yourself and to become compassionate willing, let loose the illusion of negativity and focus on love.

We have two choices, look at the negatives of others or see their love.

By choosing to look at the negatives of others, I am also focusing on the negatives within myself. Quite often I tell the girls that if they see a behaviour or action of another that they don’t like, they need to look at their own behaviour first and recognise whether they are behaving or acting in the way they wish to see.

Yet when I focus on another persons love, I give love to myself and beyond.

This does not deny the negativity in someone but only they are irrelevant in my perception. I acknowledge their negativity but choose not to dwell on it.

I accept that I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and I also accept that others may not approve of what I do, the decisions I make or the information that I share.

I also accept that I give love, I am doing the best that I can, I am strong, I am loving and I am ME ❤️

2020 · February 2020

Aspirations – 11.02.2020

Today’s been a day of fulfilling aspirations. 🤩

Minion has been working towards receiving her Pen Licence at school. Her best friend achieved it last week and bless, with tears in her eyes, she was so happy for her friend, but also upset that it wasn’t her time yet. Well today was the day! She’s finally done her joined up writing and shown her teacher how nicely she can write 😍

A quick visit to DM’s school to attend a GCSE options evening, and our big girl is setting the path for her GCSE’s 😱 She has come home and completed her submissions.

We got home to find that TwoTones letters have arrived and now she officially has her own bank account. This is such a big step for her, she can be in control of her own money and hopefully 🤞🏻 start to save. And selfishly, such an achievement for me personally, as I have been trying to get a bank account for her for over 3 months!! The bank has been fantastic, it’s just been a challenge to get everything together for the bank.

And then this evening, R&P have been to Guides and have been enrolled as official guides. As their division is a joint one, they leaders decided to allow the girls to do their promise in both locations. I thought this was such a personal and original idea and helps instil community.

2020 · February 2020

Overstretched – 10.02.2020

This young lady is beautiful, kind-hearted and currently overwhelmed by hormones.

Five minutes after getting up, all the girls were complaining of aching. It would seem that they all overstretched themselves yesterday and now their muscles are screaming. However, it’s DM that is still aching when she got home from school.
Distracted by her phone, she managed to get through most of this evening, however, a simple comment from TwoTone saying that she had eaten an apple caused a mini meltdown for DM. She took herself upstairs and got ready for bed. 7.15pm she was in her Pj’s, tucked up in bed and tearful because of her aching muscles.
At 12 years old, DM has decided that she no longer wants to do any form of exercise, she wants to stay in bed all day and eat biscuits! That’s my girl 💪🏻 😂😂😂
Now the question is….. Being the caring, comforting parent that I am 🙊, when do you think I should tell her that day 2 is when you really ache? 🤔😬😂

Days Out · February 2020

Climbing fun 09.02.2020

Finding an activity that suits all and is affordable can sometimes be quite challenging. The girls have been asking to go Rock Climbing for a while. I follow a page called Ape Index It is a rock climbing, ninja warrior, activity centre.

They had scaffolding with ladders, ropes, hoops and nets to climb.

There were different heights to jump and swing from.

Pops even managed to find herself a lovely resting place high in a hammock…

With 11 of us going, we managed to walk away with only 3 injuries – and two of those were adult ones!

For £8 per child, we had two hours free play on everything there. They offered refreshments and food at a very reasonable price.

I felt the staff were welcoming, the venue was great value for money and the girls absolutely had a blast! I personally would like to see more cushioning/padding.

What made the whole occasion even better, was being thanked by TwoTone before even leaving the building ❤️