Today was my final session of Compassion Focus Therapy Training. I have found these sessions really beneficial on so many levels.
To have compassion for myself, compassion for others and open to receiving compassion from others.
What does compassion mean? Is it giving someone a hug when you see them hurting? Is it being mindful of the feelings of others? Is it lending that ear when someone wants to talk, or being that shoulder to cry on?
Compassion is an unconditional acceptance in the moment of feelings – this can be done without judging or affirming the actions that lead to those feelings. We can use mindfulness to move forward once we have received/given compassion.
An attack on others is an attack on yourself and to become compassionate willing, let loose the illusion of negativity and focus on love.
We have two choices, look at the negatives of others or see their love.
By choosing to look at the negatives of others, I am also focusing on the negatives within myself. Quite often I tell the girls that if they see a behaviour or action of another that they don’t like, they need to look at their own behaviour first and recognise whether they are behaving or acting in the way they wish to see.
Yet when I focus on another persons love, I give love to myself and beyond.
This does not deny the negativity in someone but only they are irrelevant in my perception. I acknowledge their negativity but choose not to dwell on it.
I accept that I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and I also accept that others may not approve of what I do, the decisions I make or the information that I share.
I also accept that I give love, I am doing the best that I can, I am strong, I am loving and I am ME ❤️